If you ever want to see me irate, irrational, or impatient – then be around me when I’m lost.
I hate being lost, ESPECIALLY when I’m heading to a new location. When I’m lost my anxiety increases exponentially, my patience plummets, and my frustrations boil over like a volcano.
I HATE being lost, so I always make sure I have my trusty Waze app to direct me to where I have to go.
I’d rather listen to my Waze for directions give me directions than listening to directions from my girlfriend because I’m trying to avoid this situation:
ME: “Hey, what’s the address for [fill in the blank] ? I’ll put it in Waze.”
GF: “I know how to get there. I’ll tell you the directions.”
Me: *The Car Ride Ensues*
GF: “Oh, I forgot to tell you to take that turn. You passed the exit you were supposed to take. You can take the next one.”
How would Jesus respond?
I hate getting lost.
But what happens when you feel like your lost in this experience called life?
What happens when everything that was comfortable or familiar is now in the rear view mirror and now you find yourself in unfamiliar and foreign territory, without any sense of direction?
These last 3 months, I’ve felt lost. Everything that once made sense now seems stupid. Everything that was clear to me before is now cloudy. Things that I was once decisive about, I’m now doubtful of.
I’ve named this not-so-fun period of my life my “Lost Phase.” A phase not too unfamiliar to some of us millennials who are trying to figure this adult thing out.
This phase has come with it moments of loneliness, depression, frustration, self-doubt and impatience.
Is there anything worse than being lost? I can think of two of things.
1. Not realizing that you’re lost.
Don’t you hate those drivers who think they know where they’re going when they really don’t?
Have you ever been that driver?
This type of driver thinks that they know where they’re going, just to realize some time later that they’ve been driving in circles the whole time. They think they’re headed in the right direction, but they were lost the whole time. Sometimes, this can be chalked up to a lack of self-awareness.
2. Not Admitting That You’re Lost
It’s one thing to think you know where you’re going, it’s another thing to ACT like you know where you’re going. This type of driver will drive all over, knowing good and well they have no idea where they’re going. But because they don’t want to look dumb or damage their ego in admitting that they are lost, they’ll keep wandering around aimlessly.
Life doesn’t come with a GPS.
And I’m glad it doesn’t.
Being lost isn’t always such a bad thing.
I’ve learned that being lost can also be a chance to grow and explore uncharted territory.
This “Lost Phase”, that I’m currently in, is pushing me to grow in ways I couldn’t have imagined. It is forcing me to wrestle and deal with some previously unaddressed issues. It’s teaching me to learn how to love who I see in the mirror.
This Lost Phase is giving me the chance to rediscover my passions, reevaluate my purpose, and redirect my plans.
Getting lost is allowing me to find myself.
I’m not saying I have arrived or figured everything out. I’m just learning how to appreciate and grow where I’m at even though I’m not sure on where I’m going.
Being lost isn’t such bad thing after all.
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